Nothing is as emotionally painful as a breakup. A lot of thoughts will go through your mind such as what your friends and relatives will think of you. It is worse if you have children. How will they grow up into responsible people? How will you take care of your emotional needs? And the thought that your ex is now moving on with somebody else can be unbearable. You will be too anxious to have your lover back, and scared stiff of her/him being in somebody else’s arms. You will not realize immediately that what you require is to make your ex to love you again. These thoughts easily lead to a long depression, interfere with your work or studies, and make you confrontational and violent towards your ex.
Within time you will realize that many relationships do break up and that yours is not the only. You may also realize that your break up is not unique and can be mended. A study of previous relationships has revealed a pattern as discussed in the book The Magic Of Making Up. It gives very good tips on how to cope with and get over a broken relationship and win back your ex. The book also helps you look at all the possible causes of your break up and how they could have been avoided.
You receive a bonus book, titled Mind Magic by the same author TW Jackson, when you purchase The Magic of Making Up. The bonus book gives instructions on how to make the first approach to your former lover following a breakup. This opening move is meant to ease tension and confrontation. It should be in the form of a hand written letter conveying an acceptance of the breakup. Accepting the break has been found to be very successful in removing the ice and opening communication. Mind Magic presents samples of letters you can amend appropriately to suit your situation. You should your own words to compose the letter because your ex knows how you normally express yourself. The book tells you what to do after sending the letter. The plans suggested by The Magic of Making Up are very adaptable and can be helpful in every situation of breakups and by people of all ages. You can use the procedure whether the breakup is recent, is a few weeks old or has lasted for several months. The book is based on sound principles.
The procedure helps to overcome the animosity and pain in the shortest time possible to enable you to concentrate on the efforts in working through the problems and repair your relationship. Your ex has to be convinced that you have accepted the break up, a fact that you may not be comfortable with. The knowledge that you have accepted the break up removes the possibility of further confrontation and will make your ex lower her/his guard and allow you back into her/his life without expecting any confrontation. Once the guard is downs the door opens for the next step in rebuilding your relationship.